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(note: coaching is not therapy, counseling, instructing, consulting, or any other solution oriented expert advice way)
Bill here, I’m going to present a scenario that most of us in first response know to be a constant: “crew dynamics”. So, how can coaching help with crew dynamics issues? I will use the fire company as the model for this scenario. Others are welcome to write a response using the crew dynamic closer to your own. The situation presented in a coaching session by the newly hired and now on probation firefighter (FF John) in his first month on line is: “no matter what I do to show I’m learning my role on the company, I feel I’m not a part of the crew” So, how does this person look to answer their concern in coaching? First, just being asked by the coach “what are you coming in with today?” is a freeing experience when they know it is all about them and not the coach. Naming what is on their minds or is driving anxiety, or other is a key to the coach knowing how to listen and FF John beginning to lessen the impact of his feelings of anxiety. When appropriate, his coach will offer thought provoking questions, respectful challenges, offers of exploration, or other forms of enlightenment or awakening during the session. In this case, FF John will be asked to describe one situation or occurrence as an example for the session to begin to focus on. From his response the coach will help FF John to begin to identify what triggers him, how he feels, what emotions are flowing, what he feels he needs at this point, and what actions occurred. There is no judgment or solution focus. FF John focuses on his own feelings and thoughts. The resiliency building that can take place in these moments comes from being able to take a conversation or interaction apart and look at the different parts and replay it differently. FF John explores using his curious and creative part of his brain to bring deeper understandings which may lead to setting actionable goals moving forward using his new understanding. Coaching can be a moment in time of only a few minutes or an hour or more depending on the agreements formed at the beginning of the session. This is but one example of how coaching can be an excellent way to grow resiliency and clarity in almost every challenging or transitional space. Let’s get a conversation going here to share different situations for comment and ideas . I look forward to our conversations here on the blog, or in sessions one on one, or in groups of your choosing. Blessings, Bill
(note: coaching is not therapy, counseling, instructing, consulting, or any other solution oriented expert advice way)
Bill here, I’m going to present a scenario that most of us in first response know to be a constant: “crew dynamics”. So, how can coaching help with crew dynamics issues? I will use the fire company as the model for this scenario. Others are welcome to write a response using the crew dynamic closer to your own. The situation presented in a coaching session by the newly hired and now on probation firefighter (FF John) in his first month on line is: “no matter what I do to show I’m learning my role on the company, I feel I’m not a part of the crew” So, how does this person look to answer their concern in coaching? First, just being asked by the coach “what are you coming in with today?” is a freeing experience when they know it is all about them and not the coach. Naming what is on their minds or is driving anxiety, or other is a key to the coach knowing how to listen and FF John beginning to lessen the impact of his feelings of anxiety. When appropriate, his coach will offer thought provoking questions, respectful challenges, offers of exploration, or other forms of enlightenment or awakening during the session. In this case, FF John will be asked to describe one situation or occurrence as an example for the session to begin to focus on. From his response the coach will help FF John to begin to identify what triggers him, how he feels, what emotions are flowing, what he feels he needs at this point, and what actions occurred. There is no judgment or solution focus. FF John focuses on his own feelings and thoughts. The resiliency building that can take place in these moments comes from being able to take a conversation or interaction apart and look at the different parts and replay it differently. FF John explores using his curious and creative part of his brain to bring deeper understandings which may lead to setting actionable goals moving forward using his new understanding. Coaching can be a moment in time of only a few minutes or an hour or more depending on the agreements formed at the beginning of the session. This is but one example of how coaching can be an excellent way to grow resiliency and clarity in almost every challenging or transitional space. Let’s get a conversation going here to share different situations for comment and ideas . I look forward to our conversations here on the blog, or in sessions one on one, or in groups of your choosing. Blessings, Bill